So Fly Like a G-8

Sorry for all those who tuned in to CBS News tonight expecting to see yours truly. We were preempted by news about the G-8. Rumor has it we will be on next Sunday, and I’ll give you the thumbs up when it’s confirmed.


Kari Bales Speaks to Supporters

Kari Bales told me she immediately started an email to me that first day she read my letter. She told me that she started and stopped many times, hovering over the “send” button, coming back time and time again to complete her message. She said there were just so many things running through her mind those first few days that it was difficult to know exactly what to say. She knew she would send it someday, when she had the right words.

When she finally did send it, the door opened for us to have a conversation about how I came to write the letter, and how she came to read it. I told her about my mother and I sitting around the kitchen table, crying as we thought about the loneliness, remembering our own experiences of frustration when we didn’t have the information we felt we needed. When I talked about the necessity of dealing with the absence of information in military life, we shared one of those “YES, I TOTALLY GET IT” moments that military spouses often share. Then she explained how a co-worker encouraged her to read the letter, and she described seeing it for the first time through tears.

It was one of the most meaningful exchanges I’ve ever had.

But this isn’t supposed to be my message. It’s hers. So here it is:

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When I read your letter I began shaking and crying. You had so eloquently summed up all of the questions and emotions that I had been feeling since my whole world had been turned upside down. I am not looking at the news very much these days. Instead I read your letter every night before I go to bed and let all of the supportive words and prayers sink in.

I came back to your blog today to read the wonderful sentiments, blessings, and supportive comments that your audience has left. I know that there is a roller coaster ride ahead of me. I am so overwhelmed, appreciative, blessed, soothed, cyber-hugged, supported, loved, cared-for, in awe and thankful for all of the comments that your readers have shared. It was brave of you to write such a letter and all of the readers who chose to reach out are brave as well.

I am taking every day as it comes, enjoying our children and taking deep breaths.

I will continue to come back to your letter everyday, and read all of the comments and soak in the support. Please let everyone know I am feeling their support and understanding. Thank you.

Sincerely, Kari Bales

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The comments for Kari Bales will remain open, and I will keep approving them, as long as you keep writing them.


over 45,000Wow, last night the blog went over 45,000. I am shocked and awed by you guys. Thanks for reading and for coming back!

This week I was asked to be part of an interview about military spouses that write blogs about their emotions. I guess some good can come from letting it all hang out there, afterall. Then I was asked to make a pitch to a magazine doing a series about channeling your efforts during adversity into something positive like writing or starting a nonprofit. And then the blog went over 45,000.

I guess what I’m trying to say is thankyou.

I literally got online one day, researched the term “best blog hosting platform” and wrote a post. And kept writing. You guys did the rest, and somehow, you keep coming back for more.

Today’s post is on the Milspouse page, as it is every Friday. Until next week, please accept my heartfelt thanks for generating the momentum that has kept me writing this last ten months.

Aw, I love you guys!

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Social Media dubbed “diplomatic playground” for DoD

I don’t usually post on the weekends. But duh. Catch up, DoD.

Federal News Radio 1500 AM: The latest diplomatic playground for DoD: Social media.

Interference is Bliss

Well, now. In case you’ve been living under a rock (or in China), let me be the first to tell you that two days after Husband was mobilized, nine U.S. Servicemembers were killed in a chopper in Afghanistan. This pleasant report was immediately followed by troop fatality roundups, and a reminder that this is the deadliest year for U.S. military deaths since the Twin Towers came down. Yay for mobilization!

After fielding ten questions from my five year-old that would put my least favorite law school professor’s socratic method to shame, I turned off the TV and reminded him (and myself) that Husband’s fate is completely out of our control and we must have faith. So for today’s post I’ve made a list of all the benefits I will experience by not watching or reading any news from now until October of 2011:

  •  No more guilt over giving my daughter the “talk to the hand” gesture when she comes to report the puncture wound she received at the hand of her brother, who is still wielding the tweezers and demanding that I refer to him only as Captain Weirdo Exacto Man.
  • No more terror over garden variety weather events. I will be able to calmly walk outside without a $400 wind and water-resistant full length parka, and simply make a mental note of the limbs in my yard that need to be picked up, rather than hiding for twelve hours in the basement closet under the stairs in preparation for The Deadly Columbia Gorge Gust Disaster of 2010.
  •  Three Words: Wheel! Of! Fortune!
  •  No more frequent embarrassment over my hometown, which has an uncanny ability to generate nationally “newsworthy” characters that are destined to become reality TV stars. Both Tonya Harding and acid hoax victim-turned-self-perpetrator Bethany Storro live here. Yay for The ‘Couve!
  • I will miss at least 80% of the upcoming political ads that almost promise to vaguely tackle the impossible, accuse opponents of being in bed (literally or figuratively) with someone they shouldn’t, and inadvertantly train my boy to end each sentence with, “I’m Captain Exacto, and I approved this message.”

 I think there are probably more. Anything I missed, dear readers? Comments are now open …

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